EP 531: Why Am I Still Lonely? Understanding Loneliness Through the Attachment Style Lens

Apr 7, 2025

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Let’s get honest—loneliness is something we all feel at times, even when we’re “doing the work” or surrounded by people.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens by looking at loneliness through the lens of attachment theory.

Your attachment style—whether it’s anxious, avoidant, disorganized, or secure—shapes how you experience loneliness, how you respond to it, and what you believe it means about you.

I get personal and real about the experience of missing a partner, navigating connection, and how to build fulfilling friendships and community when you’re in a season of solitude.

Here’s what I talk about:

  • Why loneliness hits harder with anxious attachment (hint: it’s tied to self-worth)
  • How avoidant attachment leads to emotional distraction and disconnection
  • The chaotic cycle of craving connection but fearing it in disorganized attachment
  • What secure attachment looks like when navigating solitude and loneliness
  • The grief that comes with not having a partner (and why it’s valid)
  • How to build friendships from a securely attached place
  • The power of hobbies and purpose when you’re feeling alone

You will love this episode, make sure you share it with someone who needs to hear it. 

If you are feeling called to do the healing work, please know you do not need to do it alone. 

The Empowered.Secure.Loved.  Relationship Program ™  is designed to help you rewire your brain and help you embody secure attachment so you can easily attract the relationships you deserve, and attain the life you truly want. 

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